i have been battling anxiety and depression for a while. i am doing great so far,but i was recently blindsided by a decision i had to make. it was not so much the decision as the way i was approached. i was not offered a choice, it was pretty much i have signed you up for this, i expect you to attend.
No questions of whether or not i was available or interested. and it took me awhile. After a few hours and 10 ml of antacid, i was able to explain, CALMLY that i was not interested, and that i would not be attending.
There was shock i think, because i usually say yes when family makes unreasonable demands on me and on my time. This time i put me first, and i am happy with myself, so far. trying to shut out the negative voices in my head i have found is the hardest part. the voices that tell you to just give in.